On the “AITA” subreddit, a guy related his experience of being divorced from his ex-wife when their children, who are now 12 and 15, were still young. They had joint custody at first, but once his ex-wife got married again, he stopped giving his wife support.
His ex’s spouse had split up with her about the time he uploaded the article. However, he gave her access to the home they shared.
The OP had no interest in knowing the specifics of their split or the complexities of their finances.
His ex phoned him lately and asked for food, which was an unexpected turn of events in the scenario. She clarified that she was unable to feed the kids and herself because she ran out of money. OP promised to call her back and that he would take her request into consideration.
Following a conversation with his roommate, OP loaded himself with a pantry full of beef, pig, and chicken as well as a freezer brimming with venison, wild hog, and elk, which he delivered to his former partner. When he contacted his ex-wife and offered her a large load of food, things became heated.
Refusing to accept it, she demanded payment and announced that she would be placing her own meal order. But according to OP, he bought her and the kids enough food for two weeks.
His ex-wife was upset about this. She began berating him and insisted that the meal he had given her was “scraps.” He clarified that he had brought a lot of fresh food from the garden, canned veggies, frozen meat, and unopened packages of rice and pasta.
motivated by his children’s welfare, especially in light of their love of hunting and the culinary prowess of his oldest son. OP did not waver. Feeling that he was providing for his former partner, he told his girlfriend not to bring anything.
They stated there was food available; it simply needed to be prepared after getting in touch with his kids and reassuring them he would take care of any hunger worries they had. They both said that they would accept the hog and elk roasts if I was ready to give part of them up. OP commented, “I laughed and told them I would take them over later.”
But this got OP into hot water when his ex-wife accused him of pressuring her to become a “housewife” and allegedly ignoring the nutritional requirements of their children.
OP remained steadfast in his belief that he should have given her the money and supported his former partner, despite the opinions of several family members.
It was to be expected that nearly every remark his post received said that he was NTA.
Undoubtedly NTA; there’s no justification for parting with her cash. When she requested for assistance with meals, you were happy to provide it to her! However, one individual said, “She doesn’t want or need help with food.”
She requires or desires money. You shouldn’t have to pay her any money if you have 50/50 custody. She will have to ask for government assistance if she truly needs it. The individual remarked, “She’s acting ridiculously.
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N.T.A. You approached panhandlers in the same way that I do. I won’t give them money, but I will purchase food for them and give it to them. Another reader said, “And it’s pretty disappointing how few people will let me buy them a sandwich or a meal when they want money.”
“NTA, I don’t get why she believes that cooking for her children is a way to be coerced into becoming a housewife… We refer to it as being a typical parent. A third said, “Obviously, she’s nobody’s housewife anyway.
